One one hand, we want our kids to be happy and free. That’s what childhood is all about, right? But on the other hand, we want to teach them to be sensible. To respect their elders and people in authority, to show consideration to their peers. In order for that to happen, they have to learn discipline.
Give Them Fair Punishments
Children will test their boundaries to see what they can get away with, it’s a normal part of growing up. When they do so, it’s important to give out firm but fair punishments. Although you’re only human and it’s natural to want to get upset, angry or frustrated at times- keep your cool. This sets a good example and prevents the situation from getting more heated. Giving your child a warning beforehand gives them a chance to rectify their behaviour, if they continue what they’re doing, then the next step is punishment. Sites like this have ideas for fair punishments based on age.
Your Word Is Final
When you say no, your word is final. Changing your mind or giving in later down the line just teaches your child that when you say no what you really mean is maybe. This then creates wiggle room and opens the door for tantrums and them begging you to change your mind. Saying no and meaning it teaches them to respect your decision, they might not like it, but they know it’s final. Having respect for their elders and people in authority is so important for children. It helps to set them up for the rest of their life as a respectful and well-adjusted individual. If you’re struggling to get through to your child, sending them to a boot camp or military boarding school are options to consider.
Don’t Beg or Use Bribes
If your child is throwing a tantrum in public or around friends and family, it can be embarrassing. It’s easy to make a bribe just to quieten them down or to get them to listen. But it’s crucial you don’t do this- as by doing so you’re completely reinforcing their bad behaviour. You let your child know that whenever they don’t want to do something, all they have to do is have a meltdown. This isn’t good news when they start school or start socialising with others. It will only alienate them from their peers and be a huge source of frustration when the behaviour doesn’t get the same rewards as it does with you. Another thing to bear in mind is when you’ve asked your child to do something and they refuse, don’t beg them. Doing so suggests they have a say in the matter, instead of enforcing a firm but fair punishment from the point above.
Childhood can still be a lot of fun, but ensuring you teach discipline and respect for others too you will put your child on a great path for the rest of their life.
How do you discipline your children?